And thank YOU, Aline for your close reading and your so-honest response. I can definitely relate although I had an awesome role model in my mentor and friend back in Ohio, Lee, who was an absolutely incandescent “old” lady.
One thing I can get away with here in New York is to wear my hair with half buzzed off in a crew cut that I bleach white between buzzings. I find that it keeps me visible and I get lots of “cool hair!” remarks from the young people.
And, yes, we just go forward one day at a time. There’s kind of no easy way to adjust to getting old.